The Idea of Settling
Are you living the dream? What does that mean to you? And if you’re not, are you aiming for it?
I’m in a weird place where I kept burying my head when I was younger, so I’m chasing my dream at a time most people I know are comfortably set in their careers. I don’t think I’m meant to be a 9-5 desk job type of guy, I think I’m meant to do something in show biz…hopefully not the caterer.
I’ve been told by a few of my friends that I should lower my expectations in life and just settle. One of the aspects was with when looking for a girlfriend. My buddy showed me this woman he was seeing and let’s just say she wasn’t going to win any beauty pageants but more importantly the things he was telling me about her. I sat there and I just thought, why are you signing up to be abused? This woman sounds like a horrible, crazy, damaged person. I can see why she was single.
I’m not looking for a girlfriend, but if I were, I wouldn’t drop my standards like that. Maybe a Tiffany Alvord isn’t realistic, but I still think I deserve better than tubby mean bitch.
When I was younger I thought I was going to be a big star. I don’t want to be that at this point. I don’t want to be on red carpets, I don’t want to be on Ellen, I don’t want to be so famous where people want to know what I’m doing on my off days. This to me is organic settling, it’s not what I want anymore it’s not me saying you can’t have this, pick something else.
I think if you can get by doing what you’re doing, why not chase your dreams until you either reach it, or can’t keep chasing. I walked away too soon, I regret the path I went down. It still bothers me. So I would say forget settling, I think life will have you settle if that needs to happen, but don’t do it to yourself.